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I Wish You Well

Cuss cuss cuss cuss……
You are on an Indian road, stuck in traffic, loud honks, animals in the middle of the road, local  cabbies driving as if they own the roads…All this madness is enough to overwhelm you to cough out a few cuss words which your mom always refrained you to use from. The dilemma becomes further agonizing when you are a soft skill trainer and are supposed to train others’ right conducts and to be lady like.
What you do?
Push your foot hard on the brake paddle and scream with your car………Screeeeeeeeeeechhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
NO
Talking about our troubles is our biggest habit. Break the Habit and talk about joys. You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings. They are part of you, but not the entirety of you. Learn to be aware of them rather than become them.
Whenever you feel stressed, STOP and just breath.be grateful that you are safe and healthy. On road you can be grateful of the comforts of your car, cool air when temperature on road is 48 degrees. Observe the madness around and you will always find a clown to laugh.
Do not be harsh on yourself. Feeling negative is a vicious downward spiral which will take you to the pit of darkness and on the other hand Gratitude is a booming upward spiral which will make you feel better.

STRESS→→Pause→→Gratitude

So when I drive and face such madness I cry out loud ‘I Wish You Well’! Breaking the habit is not easy but I try. I have a note pasted on my dashboard that says I wish You well and in case a forget my car pool partner reminds me of my cuss word, ‘I wish you well’.


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