ThoughtMorph

Old me ,I am sure is not going with me in new year. Pooja ,who was always looking for something or someone to base her happiness upon is definitely staying behind.Happiness does not exist in things or people, It lives in me,it lives in you. " When the desire to be wanted overtakes the desire to be who we are,we lose our way."                                                                                                          -Susan Winter Be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself may seem a scary risk. But what's even scarier is what will happen to your life if you take no risk at all.Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tip Toe if you must,but take the step. Love yourself,pamper the new YOU Only agenda for 2018 is to stay committed to myself, rest all will fall in place. I made efforts to get fit in 2017 but let go of them by the year end but I am re picking the threads of health. So, no p

Not Yet ……is the phrase to be used when we lose. Pick yourself up to strive one more time rather than say, ‘ I failed’ . When the focus is winning and success, we lose. People who are oblivion of winning and work for excellence, with passion and love; the success knocks at their door at the time when least expected. Best talents may remain hidden or be lost at the worst as they lack the grit to stumble and get up on the roadblocks on way to success. Lack of willingness to fail and start all over again is the root cause of failure not the absence of technical or life skills. All these skills are acquirable if you have the grit. REMEMBER: To grow a carrot, the farmer must give it fertilizer, water, and soil—but must allow for the carrot to grow and spread its own roots; only this way can the carrot find its path to the most nutrients to ensure the strongest growth. Same goes for us, learn the right skills, acquire knowledge and strive but do not focus on winning all time, our

As written communication lacks facial expressions, body language, inflection and tone of voice, online communication becomes tricky at times. It becomes more crucial for those who are using online classrooms to adhere to same standards of communication online that you follow in real time. We sometimes overlook while communicating virtually the basic civility believing 'No one's Watching’, But be known that you are being observed.  I want to quote 1984's epic statement written by George Orwell, which is apt for the cyberspace,  “BIG BROTHER IS WATCHING YOU.”   Remember communication is never private online. Classroom communication is archived. Anything on the server can be subpoenaed. Know where you are in the cyberspace. Be it a virtual classroom moderated by an instructor or a social media chat room open to millions, YOU are being watched. So follow certain rules to avoid any conflict: Respect other people's time and bandwidth. Make yourself l

bhabb bhabb bhabbb bhab................... The heart is ready to explode and brain is bursting on the seams. What are they going to ask?How will I answer their questions?Will my explanations be enough to satisfy their curiosity?What if I fell down while entering?My hands are sweaty ,it will leave a bad impression.So many Ifs and buts before an interview.  First of all Congratulations on landing this interview.Rejoice in the glory as many who applied  have not been asked to be there.Now the question is .....What makes the recruiter Tick? Psychology is more important than logic.What makes a few brands/people eternal is their grasp of human psychology.They know how to nail the stuff about us as human beings.They know how to handle the questions thrown to them.In fact they see beyond the question and decipher the coded meaning between the lines. "There are no stupid questions,but do you have smart answers?" Questions they ask and what they are really asking is differ

What is Happiness? Surrounded by best of things! Surrounded by Best Of people! Travelling the world luxuriously! No sadness in the world! No Poverty! No pain! No war, No one Starving! Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? Are you living in a Utopian  age? To quote Nataly Kogan,a corporate happiness sherpa, 'Happiness is not the absence of negative emotions. You’re not failing happiness because you feel sad or angry. Let yourself feel what you feel, but don’t lose sight of the little moments of warmth, compassion, or beauty that are always there,even if you have to wipe your tears to see them.' You Are Enough. You are lovable, amazing and deserving of true genuine happiness exactly the way you are. May be you have to align your thoughts more towards being mindful of your happiness but You don’t have to do anything more to earn it. You’re a being, not a doing. You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings. They are part of you, but not the entirety of you. Learn t

Everyday as I check in office ,I see lots of sticky notes pasted on boards,strewn  around wastebaskets.They were yesterday's 'TO DO' lists. Much of accomplished work ,ticked boxes or some not ticked too.A very good way to organize your work and get things accomplished. I have lot to be accomplished in my mind too. But my mind play games.It takes me to the trip of a far away land , land of apprehensions,sometime land of doubts and land of fear too. A dreamland of expectations has been visited a lot by me. Guilt trips are too often for a working mom like me who juggle PTA meets and boardroom meetings. Eureka! Seeing these sticky notes around, made me realize that what We need more is 'TO STOP' list; more than the To Do list to get us ahead with our work. Every morning lets make mental notes as well as visible reminders also of our 'To Stop' list.  What I need to tell my mind To Stop doing today is: Stop expecting and start giving Stop Telling an

Cuss cuss cuss cuss…… You are on an Indian road, stuck in traffic, loud honks, animals in the middle of the road, local  cabbies driving as if they own the roads…All this madness is enough to overwhelm you to cough out a few cuss words which your mom always refrained you to use from. The dilemma becomes further agonizing when you are a soft skill trainer and are supposed to train others’ right conducts and to be lady like. What you do? Push your foot hard on the brake paddle and scream with your car………Screeeeeeeeeeechhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. NO Talking about our troubles is our biggest habit. Break the Habit and talk about joys. You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings. They are part of you, but not the entirety of you. Learn to be aware of them rather than become them. Whenever you feel stressed, STOP and just breath.be grateful that you are safe and healthy. On road you can be grateful of the comforts of your car, cool air when temperature on road is 48 degrees.

No matter how much you try.... You wont be able to make everyone happy.There will always be something you could not do for the other side.There are parents ,teachers,friends,colleagues and people around you in all shapes and sizes.everyone expect something or other from you.You are expected to dress in a particular manner,speak courteously ,eat graciously,work your ass off ,learn for life ;still its not enough. You will never be enough,So WHY worry? Do your best ,leave the rest.So what is our best? Only you can decide.Set the expectations right from the beginning.If you have already given high hopes to others,its never too late to set the boundaries right. People will forget what you said or did,They will only remember the way you made them feel. Build a daily gratitude habit and feel more positive,less stressed,and sleep better.Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire .Moment when you are all fiery and living full; the crowd around you will set itself t

From the ancient Vedic sages to modern religious thinkers, each stress on avoiding sins to be liberated from the cycles of births and rebirths, or they propose abstinence from bad deeds to avoid Hell. Mankind has always been scared by the concept of hell, punishment or Satan by our religions in order to be disciplined and regulated. Some new religions and Zen philosophies propagate the path of moderation-neither to be happy nor sad. Why we need all the negativity to keep people structured and synchronized with societal norms? Why a stick is always used to control the herd? Why can’t we stress on doing more kind deeds, smiling and laughing with fellow citizens to bring home harmony in society. Why can’t we use the carrots of sharing the positive deeds and attitude of understanding to develop a sense of achievement? From the time immemorial the negative has been stressed instead of Positive. People need not to be Abstainers or Moderator in order to be happy and contended. T

Cogito Ergo Sum (I Think Therefore I am) Desecrates said I think therefore I am, centuries ago. Man is a thinking animal; this is what distinguishes us from other species. Act of thinking make us special and important. But, what to think and how to think? From the day of birth a child is taught and trained. Taught to walk, taught to talk, how to sit or stand, rules of hygiene, rules to act or react and so on. I just mean to say that we are taught and trained to act in socially acceptable way. But the most important thing to teach is never in curriculum. What is that?????? The most important skill to be trained in is thinking. We have phrases in common use like… ‘Think before you leap’, ‘thought provoking act’ etc…. .  We are asked to think but no one tell us how? Teachers use High Order Thinking (HOT) questions to test my understanding of concepts. But no one teach me to think. In school language is taught using grammar rules. Maths is taught using formulae. Scientific conce

Bloody Hanker Sore…………………. Sore badly sore…….I got the word for it also…It’s Hanker Sore ….. I am Hanker sored! The massive frustration,  that you can burst your bust with the knowledge that you are out of the market now. Married and with a child too……………. How dare you even imagine someone let alone see and marvel lady…. That fab fool in gym flexing his muscles, the biker who just vroomed past my car teasing me or that dandy dancer at the party who matched my energy on the bhangra beats; ah…..I am forgetting that photographer with his DSLR who reminded me that traveler in me is sleeping for too long. How can they…have it all and making me feel rotten ,stuck ,Claus trophic ,jammed, webbed and trapped…oh no no no….they left me hanker sored. I am daring type and have good eyes,  that’s not my fault. I am genuine and have good inter personal skills .Smiling comes instinctively to me as I see someone .But it has its handicaps too. What if that the cutie on the othe